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Post by nlane3000 (PC) on Jan 3, 2010 15:06:06 GMT
Am i wrong to tell my girlfriend she cant go swimming with another guy who she is going to the gym with already, before this came up i was going swimming with her already teacher her to swim properly?
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Post by Jussi on Jan 3, 2010 15:15:57 GMT
Yep, wrong you are! If she already goes to the gym with the guy she might as well go swimming too. If you start acting all jealous and trying to control your woman, she'll just get angry and may even split. ...and even if she were to fall in love with this other guy, there's nothing you can do about it. So just let her do what she wants and she'll be happy. I've never limited my wife's goings and we're still together after 16 years (or so). We might not be, if I had at somepoint acted like a jealous tyrant. Jussi
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Post by nlane3000 (PC) on Jan 3, 2010 15:18:30 GMT
Hmm lucky i didnt say she couldnt i just said i would rather she didnt lol but im supposed to be teaching her to swim feel like he is taking her away from me
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Post by Jussi on Jan 3, 2010 15:45:19 GMT
He might very well be trying to steal her (unless he's gay). Why does she go to gym with a guy anyhow, do you not like to go to gym? Jussi PS. Does the gym have a swimming pool too or do they now go to gym and separate swimming pool together?
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Post by nlane3000 (PC) on Jan 3, 2010 15:57:36 GMT
She just decided she wanted to go to the gym last week and he already goes she says that he will motervate her thing is they have had a thing before i started going out with her.
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Post by CmdrTomalak (PC/PS3/PS4) on Jan 3, 2010 16:06:40 GMT
I agree with Jussi. Nothing tells a woman you love her more than letting her know you trust her.
If trust isn't there, the relationship needs work.
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Post by nlane3000 (PC) on Jan 3, 2010 16:13:08 GMT
I think ure missing the point i was teaching her to swim now this f***** (who a very long time ago was my best friend new we barely speak) thinks he can just take over its a joke espesially as i am the best swimmer in the area no one can touch me in the water.
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Post by Grnkjr0 on Jan 3, 2010 16:31:59 GMT
I understand what you are saying here nlane300 - but like Jussi I would not advice you to forbid her this. If she kissed that guy I have a feeling you will run into trouble with this girl anyway. If you are the kind of guy that sits home all day in front of the screen, you need to be doing some sort of activity - making her think YOU are the interesting guy here. Women always wants what they can not get in that age. I remember back when I was that age - girls sure are hard to figure out sometimes. Remember if anything comes up you stand your ground - this is not the 70´s with all the sensitivity shit and men with no balls.
Go meet some people and become that interesting guy she HAVE to be with.
Poul
P.S
If you are lucky kat will read this and she might give you some ideas to why your girlfriend is acting like she is - we men are clueless most of the time.
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Post by Jussi on Jan 3, 2010 16:32:12 GMT
What the Hell! Why is this so called friend of yours trying to take your place as her swimming instructor. Jussi
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Post by nlane3000 (PC) on Jan 3, 2010 17:31:26 GMT
He has not been a friend for about 7 years jussi, and u want to know something funny grnkjr0 out of the 2 of us he is the one at home ALL THE TIME like i dont think he has anything interesting in his life excdept my girlfriend. Ps. We live on the same road hows that for tense lol Pss. Defintetly need kat
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Post by nlane3000 (PC) on Jan 3, 2010 22:21:01 GMT
Ok so we talked about it for a bit and she wanted to read all this lol turns out she said if he tried anything his face would be in the tredmill while it was running lol think im satisfied with that
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Post by Scud (PC) on Jan 4, 2010 20:53:25 GMT
See, nothing to worry about. And even if there was something going on, don't go blame your girlfriend. Go after the dude instead. May I suggest? Baseball bats make for excellent fake swimming instructor gym idiot repellants. (Former) technical advisor at your service. You're welcome (...)
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Post by kat (PC) on Jan 6, 2010 12:33:25 GMT
Well, i was going to say talk to her, and explain why youa re worried and why you don't want her going with him, but you've already done that, and it seemed like you got a good answer To be honest, if my boyfriend wanted to go somewhere with an ex girlfriend, i wouldn't be impressed, so i totally understand where you're coming from. But instead of getting angry, you need to explain your concerns. Because if you just say 'you aren't to see him', then she might think you're just being jealous and controlling, and will do it anyway. But as i said, you already spoke to her, which is excellent! You need to trust each other, otherwise you're going to drive yourself nuts thinking about where she is and who she is and what she's doing. And to be honest, no one needs that. Scud, i gotta disagree with you mate. It takes 2 to tango. The only reason to get pissed with just him is if he was making advances towards her and she kept turning him down.
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Post by nlane3000 (PC) on Jan 6, 2010 18:36:13 GMT
He has done that before now in a night club when i wasnt there lol i let him off that time as he was drunk, i didnt say she couldnt see him just that i didnt think that it was a good sport choice and they still go to the gym together or atleast they would if he wasnt having a strop coz she isnt going swimming with him lol he is ignoring her now
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